Dixie Der Der's Advice for the Heart (when it hurts on the inside part of it )

1. Music. Music heals the soul. Sing it, play it, dance to it. It'll help to clear the illusion of what you think hurts so much (what you focus on to not deal with yourself) and gets you to the core issue. You just have to pay attention and don't push it away when it comes up. I strongly suggest Coldplay, Kelly Clarkson, Maroon 5, Evanescense, Carina Round, Mariah Carey and the soundtrack for Rent.

2. Friends. Go out, do something. It feels good to gain a new perspective and get some fresh air. It'll make you remember why you love being alive and present. It'll help you to know that even in difficult times, not every person in the world is a jerk.

3. Sit. Meditate, see what comes up. Ask for Divine Healing and Intervention. It'll happen. Remember that this is your ego that is in pain. The ego thinks it wants and it needs and it'll never have. But it's not real. It's not an expression of your true self. There is never anything that you can get from another person. It's always inside of you. If you don't believe this and keep trying to hurt others and go where you aren't supposed to be, you are very committed to your ego. I know that I am very committed to mine, and want to break free.

4. Remove yourself from the situation. It's much easier to focus on what needs attention when you aren't in the middle of unnecessary drama and upset. The ego loves it. The ego loves drama and negativity and need and fear so much that it creates this awful world around it. This is not you, even though it seems like it.

5. Promise yourself that you'll never let another take away your worth or make you feel this way again. Each heartbreak is a step in the direction of healing yourself. It will trigger your insecurities and self worth and self esteem. When you look to someone else to fill you, or think you'll only be happy when they are in love you, you have some pretty serious issues to heal. I've been stuck in this pattern for so long now. It's nice to finally see some light.

6. Remember that the only thing you really have is you. It's up to you to decorate your soul and see the world as bright and shiny. Sometimes the closer we get to this truth, the more your outside world will fall apart. Things needs to fall apart. If things fall apart and you don't get it the first time, they will fall apart again and again.

7. All of humankind has been experiencing these emotions since the beginning of time. You aren't alone in this, and you might find compassion in the strangest places.

8. Cheesecake, the Gilmore Girls, Sex and the City, Arrested Development and good friends will carry you when you feel like the world is over. Yeah, it's a quick fix, but sometimes a quick fix is just what the doctor ordered.

9. Be patient with yourself. Read some good books. Smile at someone. Spread joy and magic to someone's life. Spend time alone. Really let yourself cry and feel.

10. Remember you are uniquely you. You are a gift to the world. When someone makes you believe otherwise, let them go. You're doing both of you a favor. Smile...because you never know who's already falling in love with it.

~People change, it's just what happens. Nobody said it was easy. I'm going back to the start~

~You never know what's going to happen. Experience the Now. Things need to Heal.~

If they come back again, on dragonflies' wings, you'll know. Otherwise let them go, let them fly and see the beauty that they are.